Comments on: Getting Married And Quitting Facebook http://tomsbiketrip.com/2009/10/getting-married-and-quitting-facebook/ Adventure cycling since 2007 Sat, 11 Feb 2012 11:06:58 +0000 hourly 1 By: Tom Allen http://tomsbiketrip.com/2009/10/getting-married-and-quitting-facebook/#comment-1134 Tom Allen Tue, 09 Feb 2010 09:17:46 +0000 http://tom.ride-earth.org.uk/?p=799#comment-1134 You're right. I think that technology's rapid advance has far outpaced society's ability to form moral standards for the new abilities it gives us. The information age is still in it's infant phase and it's very difficult to see where it's going. Very interesting to watch, as well! Thanks for the comment - I'd be interested to see where your research takes you, if you are planning on publishing anything at the end of it... You’re right. I think that technology’s rapid advance has far outpaced society’s ability to form moral standards for the new abilities it gives us. The information age is still in it’s infant phase and it’s very difficult to see where it’s going. Very interesting to watch, as well!

Thanks for the comment — I’d be interested to see where your research takes you, if you are planning on publishing anything at the end of it…

]]> By: Jackie D http://tomsbiketrip.com/2009/10/getting-married-and-quitting-facebook/#comment-1133 Jackie D Mon, 08 Feb 2010 17:46:38 +0000 http://tom.ride-earth.org.uk/?p=799#comment-1133 Hi Tom, I'm not sure if you will see my comment since this posting is several weeks old... I stumbled on it because I'm researching the manners of social media. Your words are right on and they echo my feelings exactly. "Just because technology makes it possible doesn't mean it's the right thing to do on a moral level." This should be taught to all people, starting in grade school! People really need to take a step back and ask whether they have a right to post photos of friends / family without their permission. Unfortunately, most people don't have the sensibility to consider other people's wishes or the fact that everyone has different levels of comfort. Congratulations on your wedding and thanks for your thoughtful post. Hi Tom,
I’m not sure if you will see my comment since this posting is several weeks old… I stumbled on it because I’m researching the manners of social media. Your words are right on and they echo my feelings exactly. “Just because technology makes it possible doesn’t mean it’s the right thing to do on a moral level.” This should be taught to all people, starting in grade school!
People really need to take a step back and ask whether they have a right to post photos of friends / family without their permission. Unfortunately, most people don’t have the sensibility to consider other people’s wishes or the fact that everyone has different levels of comfort. Congratulations on your wedding and thanks for your thoughtful post.

]]> By: Mark WIlliamson http://tomsbiketrip.com/2009/10/getting-married-and-quitting-facebook/#comment-1132 Mark WIlliamson Wed, 14 Oct 2009 11:11:57 +0000 http://tom.ride-earth.org.uk/?p=799#comment-1132 Yo Tom, Hope you're well mate. Sorry to see you off Facebook but it's only facebook! For what it's worth I was waiting for the officially sanctioned photos & your announcement before I barged in with congrats! Anyway, will catch you on Skype at some point hopefully, for me a much better way of chatting to friends but for some reason cannot seem to get anyone to sign up to the bloody thing! Think FB video chat is coming in soon but like standard FB chat there will generally be more people on there you don't want to chat to than do and so everyone will end up going offline! Got you in my rss so will keep an eye out! Cheers mate, Mark oh, and congrats by the way! Yo Tom,

Hope you’re well mate. Sorry to see you off Facebook but it’s only facebook! For what it’s worth I was waiting for the officially sanctioned photos & your announcement before I barged in with congrats!

Anyway, will catch you on Skype at some point hopefully, for me a much better way of chatting to friends but for some reason cannot seem to get anyone to sign up to the bloody thing! Think FB video chat is coming in soon but like standard FB chat there will generally be more people on there you don’t want to chat to than do and so everyone will end up going offline!

Got you in my rss so will keep an eye out!

Cheers mate,

Mark

oh, and congrats by the way!

]]> By: Tom Allen http://tomsbiketrip.com/2009/10/getting-married-and-quitting-facebook/#comment-1131 Tom Allen Mon, 12 Oct 2009 08:10:39 +0000 http://tom.ride-earth.org.uk/?p=799#comment-1131 Thanks Peter! We're planning to get going as soon as spring creeps over the mountains - probably March or April. In the meantime I'm doing plenty of more intimate local trips in the back-country. <em>Bon voyage</em> to you... (Peter's cycling the length of Africa for Against Malaria - his fantastic site is at <a href="http://www.thebigafricacycle.com/" rel="nofollow">thebigafricacycle.com</a>!) Thanks Peter! We’re planning to get going as soon as spring creeps over the mountains — probably March or April. In the meantime I’m doing plenty of more intimate local trips in the back-country. Bon voyage to you…

(Peter’s cycling the length of Africa for Against Malaria — his fantastic site is at thebigafricacycle.com!)

]]> By: Peter Gostelow http://tomsbiketrip.com/2009/10/getting-married-and-quitting-facebook/#comment-1130 Peter Gostelow Sun, 11 Oct 2009 22:07:10 +0000 http://tom.ride-earth.org.uk/?p=799#comment-1130 Hi Tom, Congrats to you both. I'm glad I have less hours in the day to waste on facebook. When are you back on the road? Hi Tom, Congrats to you both. I’m glad I have less hours in the day to waste on facebook. When are you back on the road?

]]> By: Kevin http://tomsbiketrip.com/2009/10/getting-married-and-quitting-facebook/#comment-1129 Kevin Sat, 10 Oct 2009 09:05:58 +0000 http://tom.ride-earth.org.uk/?p=799#comment-1129 Hi Tom, I totally agree with your argument about facebook. This does, however, make me a hypocrite as I spend an hour a day on the bloomin' thing. I do not, however, subscribe to all the event invitation/wierd applications/general b*****ks that goes with it. Personally I use facebook to, especially in the last few months) to help plan my exped. Through facebook I speak to people who have done similar trips as I am about to embark on. It's invaluable tool for me to advertise my expedition and keep 'followers' up to date with what evers happening. Had I not been doing my trip I simply wouldn't be using it as otherwise it's another useless site thrown into the ever growing pool of useless internet tripe! (Sorry if there's spelling mistakes but I'm running for the tube as I'm writing this) Hi Tom,

I totally agree with your argument about facebook. This does, however, make me a hypocrite as I spend an hour a day on the bloomin’ thing.

I do not, however, subscribe to all the event invitation/wierd applications/general b*****ks that goes with it.

Personally I use facebook to, especially in the last few months) to help plan my exped. Through facebook I speak to people who have done similar trips as I am about to embark on. It’s invaluable tool for me to advertise my expedition and keep ‘followers’ up to date with what evers happening.

Had I not been doing my trip I simply wouldn’t be using it as otherwise it’s another useless site thrown into the ever growing pool of useless internet tripe!

(Sorry if there’s spelling mistakes but I’m running for the tube as I’m writing this)

]]> By: Tom Allen http://tomsbiketrip.com/2009/10/getting-married-and-quitting-facebook/#comment-1128 Tom Allen Sat, 10 Oct 2009 08:43:35 +0000 http://tom.ride-earth.org.uk/?p=799#comment-1128 Thanks for these kind words Matt. The post was an observation on the effect of social networks on real-life relationships and social standards. I think this is just the tip of the iceberg in terms of how the internet is going to affect the lives of those who use it. There is always going to be a conflict between what's made possible by the newest technology and what's acceptable in the social realm, especially in terms of personal privacy. It's an interesting time to be part of it, that's for sure! Everything you said seems to be wise and thoughtful - thank you again. Thanks for these kind words Matt. The post was an observation on the effect of social networks on real-life relationships and social standards. I think this is just the tip of the iceberg in terms of how the internet is going to affect the lives of those who use it. There is always going to be a conflict between what’s made possible by the newest technology and what’s acceptable in the social realm, especially in terms of personal privacy. It’s an interesting time to be part of it, that’s for sure!

Everything you said seems to be wise and thoughtful — thank you again.

]]> By: Tom Allen http://tomsbiketrip.com/2009/10/getting-married-and-quitting-facebook/#comment-1127 Tom Allen Sat, 10 Oct 2009 08:37:21 +0000 http://tom.ride-earth.org.uk/?p=799#comment-1127 Hi Cezar. Thanks for your comments. I'm sure you'll agree that each person has the right to his or her privacy if he or she wishes. Unedited photos may well be life, but they can also be hurtful and inappropriate. I guess that depends on the person in question - maybe you don't mind all aspects of your life being published to to the world, but I am sure that I'm not the only one who has a problem with it in certain situations. Just because technology makes it possible doesn't mean it's the right thing to do on a moral level. Luckily Facebook makes it possible to remove these unwanted links. It's just a shame that the situation had to arise in the first place! Hi Cezar. Thanks for your comments. I’m sure you’ll agree that each person has the right to his or her privacy if he or she wishes. Unedited photos may well be life, but they can also be hurtful and inappropriate.

I guess that depends on the person in question — maybe you don’t mind all aspects of your life being published to to the world, but I am sure that I’m not the only one who has a problem with it in certain situations. Just because technology makes it possible doesn’t mean it’s the right thing to do on a moral level.

Luckily Facebook makes it possible to remove these unwanted links. It’s just a shame that the situation had to arise in the first place!

]]> By: Matt http://tomsbiketrip.com/2009/10/getting-married-and-quitting-facebook/#comment-1126 Matt Fri, 09 Oct 2009 20:11:42 +0000 http://tom.ride-earth.org.uk/?p=799#comment-1126 Firstly congratulations. As a recently married man as well I empathize with the pleasure of having those you care about share in such a special day. About facebook it depends entirely on how you use it. Personally it is a place to share things like photos with those of my friends who use facebook and the fact that acquaintances also see them is a side effect. I am in the same position as you that it is acquaintances who I hear from on facebook rather than friends. When you say you your plan with traveling was to share your adventures with your friends, maybe you have lost some on the way, which is sad, but think of those you have made including the one you are now going to share the rest of your journey and your life with. I hope this post wasn't too serious. It is part of life that as people grow they grow apart from some friends and closer to others. Facebook is a mess so perhaps letter and e-mail writing should be more important to those closest to you. Congratulations again and I hope that your journeys and life with Tenny are truly wonderful. To finish a quote from a prayer which always seemed apt for your journey "May the road rise up to meet you. May the wind be always at your back. May the sun shine warm upon your face" Firstly congratulations. As a recently married man as well I empathize with the pleasure of having those you care about share in such a special day.

About facebook it depends entirely on how you use it. Personally it is a place to share things like photos with those of my friends who use facebook and the fact that acquaintances also see them is a side effect. I am in the same position as you that it is acquaintances who I hear from on facebook rather than friends.

When you say you your plan with traveling was to share your adventures with your friends, maybe you have lost some on the way, which is sad, but think of those you have made including the one you are now going to share the rest of your journey and your life with.

I hope this post wasn’t too serious. It is part of life that as people grow they grow apart from some friends and closer to others. Facebook is a mess so perhaps letter and e-mail writing should be more important to those closest to you.

Congratulations again and I hope that your journeys and life with Tenny are truly wonderful. To finish a quote from a prayer which always seemed apt for your journey

“May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face”

]]> By: Cezar http://tomsbiketrip.com/2009/10/getting-married-and-quitting-facebook/#comment-1125 Cezar Fri, 09 Oct 2009 16:04:58 +0000 http://tom.ride-earth.org.uk/?p=799#comment-1125 I was married Saturday and the usual flurry of photos were up the next day. I saw nothing wrong with it. I do believe you are being over sensitive. Unedited photos are life. It's documentary. This will sound harsh, but if you didn't want there to be photos of the wedding online, then you should have not allowed photography except your own. People like to share with others, and they gain enjoyment from it. They connection may not be as deep, but they are connection. I was married Saturday and the usual flurry of photos were up the next day. I saw nothing wrong with it. I do believe you are being over sensitive. Unedited photos are life. It’s documentary. This will sound harsh, but if you didn’t want there to be photos of the wedding online, then you should have not allowed photography except your own.

People like to share with others, and they gain enjoyment from it. They connection may not be as deep, but they are connection.

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